Coaching several out-placed professionals through 10 weeks of career transition inspired me to take an honest look at my own situation. The past few years have seemed like climbing up a mountain of challenges, only to get to the top to be tempted (even overwhelmed) by oceans of opportunity in view. Now at the top, what do you think I might be inclined to do? Will I head down rugged trails to explore those new oceans glistening in the sun, most likely filled with new people and adventures?

Or, will I study the "map" of my business and life plan, then head in the direction already chartered, the one that will allow me to maintain my best pace and share my talents and wares with those I've already invested time and resources with?

Have you ever been in such a place? If you are embarking on a new job, career or business venture, you might be able to relate.

Brain behavior expert and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen, M.D. reveals these 5 Tips to Boost Willpower:

1. Get a good night's sleep of 6 or more hours a night
2. Maintain healthy blood sugar levels by eating several small meals a day with some protein in each meal.
3. Practice. The more will power you practice, the more you actually have (it's like building muscle). Have a child? Help your child develop greater brain capacity for self-control and will power by saying "No" and teaching patience from toddler age upward.
4. Balance brain chemistry. Try natural supplements like 5-HTP and Green Tea, and seek professional help.
5. Focus and meditate on what you want. Write clearly stated goals on a sheet of paper and review daily asking yourself, "Is my behavior today getting me what I want?"
   

Often, effective leadership is not punctuated by perfection, but rather, connection.  The fastest way to connect with others is to be real . . . be authentic, and (oh YES) even vulnerable.

One way to enhance trust and take a relationship to a deeper level is to share a brief three to five minute story about yourself.  Avoid sharing a story that makes you look like you have it all together and instead, take a calculated risk and share a common human need or a season in your life where you felt stalled or lacked confidence. 

Be real and share specific details - who/what/when/why/how. Remember, it's healthy to laugh at yourself and share a new perspective with others.

"For it is by grace you have been saved through faith, and this is not of your own doing, it is the gift of God." Ephesians 2:8